Use Politics to Your Advantage

Lately, politicians (most notably former Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger and Representative Anthony Weiner) have been in the news for their extramarital activities. It is nothing new. And, though women cheat, too, the vast major of these very public examples involve men cheating on women. There are many reasons for this. To name a few, it is socially acceptable (to a certain extent) for men to cheat, some women tend to fall off in the sex department once married, and bad communication. It does not have to be this way.

Unions and Collective Bargaining Rights

Everyone from Dr. Laura to Dan Savage will tell you that one major way men show love and affection is through sex (not talking). This fact can be great early in a relationship and begin to get a bit troublesome the longer the relationship goes on. There are many solutions once it becomes a problem. Ladies, though you do not want to let too many people, too far into the private affairs between you and your husband, it can be helpful to have a “union” of close friends, spiritual guides, and therapists who give you an outlet for talking and sharing (since your husband does not necessarily have the capacity to take it ALL on). This network of people can help you design a set of “collective bargaining rights” that help keep you happy and more available for sex with your husband. In some cases, this could include an arrangement that allows third parties mediate in one way or another.

Parks and Recreation

One major mistake that a person makes which can lead to straying in marriage, is believing that he or she can continuously put himself or herself in positions where he or she will be tempted. Yeah, yeah, yeah, we are all adults and have self-control, but we all also have times when we are vulnerable and bored. It is not as if one has to go to extremes to avoid these types of situations. Simply, being in tune with when you are feeling frisky or bored, and avoiding inappropriate activity accordingly, can help. Regular 'date nights', mixing it up the sex domain, and maintaining intimacy with you partner are other deterrents.  Calligrapher tip:  Write each other love notes.  They are more intimate than texts and less likely to end up all over the world. 

Remember to keep it interesting and avoid taking each other for granted. If you see things are starting to get out of hand, schedule an appointment with a trusted spiritual guide or therapists that is right for you.